I’m sure you’ve heard the cliché that writing is an introvert’s profession. And though I’m one myself, I wouldn’t necessarily agree. Having said that, there are certainly a lot of us out there. Hello you! ?
Let me say straight up – Personality does not determine ability, talent, ethics or success. It’s the work we’re willing to put in. And depending on our disposition, some of this will come naturally, while other parts will need real effort.
Let’s not take sides – but instead look at how each brings their unique attributes to the table. We can certainly learn from each other. Of course, if you’re lucky enough to be an ambivert/omnivert, you’ll have advantages of both to work with!
People Interaction & Writing Inspiration
I won’t lie – I’m a people watcher (in a non-creepy way of course). One of the best things about hanging with extroverts, is that you need only throw out the occasional question or random statement, then sit back and enjoy the show! Ha ha! Not that I don’t contribute, but I love watching the interactions.
And for a lot of introvert writers – this is where ideas for subtle character dynamics come from. Watching said interactions, body language, tuning into voice tones. So, yes, introverts may be more on the quiet side in social groups, but it doesn’t mean they’re not in the moment, soaking up both the blatant and discreet like the proverbial sponge.
Extroverts on the other hand, are social masters and thrive off other people’s energy. For this reason, they’ll have far more exposure to different types of people and situations. They’ll venture to places that would be an introvert’s nightmare. Hence, they’ll have a lot of real-life fodder to draw from.
And if either personality type is lucky enough to be empaths, (yes, I said lucky. Even though it doesn’t always seem that way), then they’re in a group of truly insightful individuals. This can be such an advantage when it comes to writing, as it’s quite likely they read people well.
Solitude or Interactive Space?
Everyone has their own preference as to writing environment, where they feel most comfortable and productive.
Not to stereo-type, but there are a lot of introvert writers who do prefer solitude. It’s something that sits naturally and comfortably. But there are just as many who enjoy a space in between the solitary and interactive – e.g. a library. It’s the ideal writing spot for those who don’t mind if people are around, but there’s no pressure to socialise or interact. A smile or a nod will suffice as everyone quietly goes about their business. Perfect.
The extrovert writer doesn’t require solitude, though may occasionally seek it. They can write pretty much anywhere. Library, Café, Restaurant, Public Commutes. Having people and other environmental stimulants around doesn’t phase them. In fact, it adds to the experience. Though sometimes the constant distractions aren’t always conducive to productivity. Hence, they may need to find a quiet spot in the short term.
Then, there are those, both extrovert and introvert, who like to write with music playing in the background. Music has long been considered food for the soul, and has the power to set or shift our moods. Some prefer to play their favourite songs to get pumped up before sitting down to write, and then turn the music off. Others like tunes as they write – beautiful melodies, but no lyrics to distract attention.
Self-Promotion
Self-promotion can be hard and nerve-racking for anyone. Introvert, extrovert, it doesn’t matter. We all want to put our best selves forward.
Even though extroverts love being around people, sharing their stories, jokes and experiences, and will generally excel at self-promotion when the time comes to release their work; they can be as nervous as any introvert when it comes to speaking in front of a forum. It’s completely natural for everyone. What helps them prepare is that they’ll attend all the workshops, book festivals, other writer’s book signings, comic-cons…everything! And will likely be spread right across social media.
Introverts on the other hand tend to be ‘fly beneath the radar’ type of people. Large scale interaction is intimidating at best. And the thought of giving live interviews is enough to make anyone vomit. While I certainly don’t want to make introverts sound anti-social, because that’s not the case, social aspects of self-promotion can be uncomfortable.
Which leads onto the next topic.
Comfort Zones and Growth
I know the word ‘Authentic’ gets thrown around a lot these days. To the point where people skim straight over it.
You skimmed, didn’t you? I don’t blame you.
While yes, it’s important to extend ourselves, to push past barriers that are holding us back, it’s exhausting and not enjoyable to be something we’re not. We can all still achieve our goals while remaining true to ourselves. And let me just say, this does not mean leaving your comfort zone behind! But rather, opening the bubble a smidge to allow new experiences in.
What does this mean for the introvert writer?
Eventually, if we want our hard work out there, we need to push our boundaries a little. And honestly, some of it isn’t as bad as what our imaginations would have us believe. Especially when you find and connect with like-minded people.
No one truly knows what they’re capable of, until they test their resistance.
My own personal experience –
Creating a Facebook Profile page, and this Blog! Never did I think I could put myself out there on the internet. While still in my infancy with it, what I’ve learnt is that the writing community, introvert and extrovert alike, is full of supportive, inspirational, and truly generous people and groups who graciously share their experiences and knowledge, and who are genuinely interested in each other’s journey. You don’t need to pretend to be anything other than yourself.
While most people are fairly conversant with Facebook, there are other platforms that allow engagement on your own terms. Research your options, e.g. Blogging, Twitter, Instagram etc, and test the waters. You may be surprised at how much you actually enjoy it! Let’s face it, digital marketing is huge, and you don’t have to talk to anyone in person (at least not straight away, but you get plenty of time to panic (sorry…prepare), if someone does want to speak to you about your work).
It’s all about conditioning and learning in a space that you’re comfortable with.
What does this mean for the extrovert writer?
Introverts and extroverts are wired differently when it comes to comfort zones. What metaphorically would be lovingly swaddled in an Oodie for an introvert, would feel like suffocation to an extrovert.
This includes the necessary space a writer will inevitably need to either meet a deadline, get that draft finally finished, or work through the umpteenth edit before sending it out for feedback. This means a certain amount of quiet solitude. I can feel every extrovert writer out there shudder!
Advice I’ve come across is to get your social fix before settling in. Go grab your morning coffee, brekkie, brunch or whatever with friends. Then allocate a period of time to yourself to get some work done. If you can’t be trusted to limit your interaction, ha ha, then do your writing first, and go meet friends after. That’s the reward.
For both the introvert and extrovert, it’s not about trying to be the other. And honestly, who would want that? Be yourself, work with your strengths, and you’ll get there. Each will have their own way and individual journey.
Just be you.
